Breaking out of the Bubble

I thrive on bringing people together.  I much rather see people gather on common ground, in a happy space, than at odds over something trivial.  Finding the good and learning to trust others is much more productive than picking people apart for the sake of our egos.

We all have done this.  We all know how it feels when it's done to us.  It hurts and people can be cruel about the most mundane things.  But why do we still do it?

Where is our trust, our loyalty, our love and forgiveness?  When can we give without expecting anything in return?  Where is the graciousness of thanking those who support us?

We all yearn for understanding, forgiveness and basic kindness, however it is all of these things we tend to forget to give to those we interact with. Especially to those we don't know or don't know well. 

As a society we are quick to judge others for what they do, without knowing who they are. When we know a person well, we are much more forgiving of their actions and their words.

Our word is our gift to others.  Words of care nurture, they go further than words that lack care; and when that care is not present, it hurts our own souls the most. 

Deep within, we sense this, but we still forget and continue on a loveless (careless) path, and the remedy is as simple as giving with our hearts.

With the right mindset, we all can be warmer, softer, better.  We can leave our harmful words alone and instead think of the goodness that will fill someone else's heart, selflessly.

Living in Suburbia, behind our social media personas, creates a bubble of illusion on what's true and what's only part of someone's story.  

We use social media as a crutch, it gives us permission to forget our human instincts to do onto others as you would want done onto you.  I've experienced and seen good people, my own friends, shredded by comments of others.  

One friend's entire week was ruined over a little dog poop.  I kid you not! 

Our suburban life allows people to hide behind a veil of questions.  We don't know each other well, we keep facades of goodness and play roles in public which are inconsistent with who we are and what we truly feel inside.  

Unintentionally, this throws ourselves into a funk, feeling depleted of what we truly want out of our already busy lives.  We allow our minds to wander to untruths, doubt festers and anger looms when in reality, honest communication resolves those seeds of doubt before they are fertilized. 

I had another friend who thought I was mad at her over something trivial, when in fact, a text I had sent to her, resolving her doubts, never transfered through. 

I nonchalantly commented how I was wondering if I should re-send it and ultimately forgot, meanwhile she was formulating all sorts of untrue thoughts in her head. I've done this before.  It's interesting how we hide our true feelings at the most inopportune times.  

When we give others the benefit of the doubt, it natually is given back to us. 

This happens with so many of us.  Letting go of the bubble we create around our space is ideal for our physiological well-being.  We all take things so personally and at the end of the day we all just want to be accepted for who we are.  Who we truly are, not the facade that we put out in the world.  Breaking out and freeing our minds of the clutter, wakes up our spirit to everything it needs to thrive in life.  

Doubt - Fear - Anger - Sadness - 

should translate to 

Trust - Comfort - Peace - Happiness